Mary Ann Cadorna
Dear NAPW San Francisco Chapter Women: You are cordially invited to our San Mateo Chapter Business Women's Autumn Networking Mixer: Bring your cards and let's share our opportunities and see if we can't help each other take our businesses to another level. Food and refreshments provided. Contact: Mary Ann Cadorna NAPW San Mateo Chapter President @ 415-928-9099. Wednesday 10/07/2015 6:00 - 7:30 PM 1840 Gateway Dr. Suite 150 San Mateo, CA 94404 Kindly RSVP firstname.lastname@example.org
2 days ago
Good afternoon, I am new to this chapter and I would love to introduce myself. I own a wine tour company and we specialize in small boutique wineries where you will sit with the owners and wine makers. It is an ultimate experience. We do land and yacht tours. Please check out our website . Thank you.... Jean Dubois
7 days ago
For all my NAPW association sisters, I am offering a 40% discount to my upcoming workshop: Living Authentically - Change your story, change your life at IONS in Petaluma the weekend of October 16-18th. I hope to see you there. Visit / to register.
Sep 29, 2015
Gaining Soul Mastery: Pain vs. Suffering
Pain and suffering is a part of life. How can we take both pain and suffering and gain soul mastery? We know that pain is a part of being alive. As life ebbs and flows, we experience painful or hurtful situations, which give our souls the opportunity to grow. If there is a pattern that continually plays out, our soul is calling it in so that it can attain a different outcome; to heal an old wound allowing it to gain soul mastery.
When we get stuck in the pain, it causes suffering. The resulting toxicity has an adverse impact on us as well as on everyone within our energetic sphere of influence, which drives energy 10 feet around our bodies in every direction. But how much suffering we experience as a result of a painful situation is solely dependent upon us.
So what can you do when you are experiencing pain? To learn to move through it faster to gain soul mastery.
Step 1. Examine what is really causing the discomfort.
Step 2. Name all the feelings being experienced. Notice if the feelings are familiar or different and ask yourself these questions:
Is it part of a bigger pattern that has been repeated over a period of time? How can I create a different outcome, creating soul mastery over the wounding?
What expectations did I have that weren’t met?
Can I shift my perspective around the event and see it from the other person’s perspective?
What’s my responsibility in the event that may be contributing to my discomfort and suffering?
What impact is this having on me and my relationship with others?
Is there anyone I need to forgive including myself or my behavior around the event?
What are the gifts and lessons I’ve received as a result of the event occurring?
When you’re finished with these self reflections, it’s time to let go. Light a fire under your intention (figuratively and literally). This ceremony is your last step towards soul mastery:
Step 1. Create a sacred space to perform your ceremony. This can be done through setting up an altar where you place beautiful objects on it; flowers, crystals, pictures, stones, incense to name a few. Anything that supports you in creating a sacred state of consciousness and reflects what you want to manifest into your life or to heal.
Step 2. Prepare yourself by sitting in silence, meditating or cleansing yourself by burning some sage, sweetgrass, palo santo or any other incense in order to bring you into the present moment and away from your everyday reality.
Step 3. Build a fire or light a candle with the intention of letting go of any negative, limiting and painful thoughts, feelings and beliefs.
Step 4. Write on a piece of paper what came up during your self examination above or blow it into a flammable object and release it to the fire.
I particularly like to use fire as a way of transmuting the energy; but other elements you can use are:
Water – where the issue is washed down the drain.
Wind – where the issue is released to the wind.
Earth – where the issue is buried in the earth.
Set your intention and repeat to yourself: I release [X] and heal from the wounds I have been carrying as a result of [Y].
Example reflections below:
I release my blame of another for the feelings that I am experiencing now.
I release my feelings of abandonment and heal from the wounds I have been carrying as a result of my parents divorce.
I release my feelings of anger and heal from the wounds I have as a result of someone not meeting my expectations.
By bringing consciousness and light to the situation, space is created for something different in the future, which has a ripple effect out into the world. Keep in mind that nothing is put in front of you that you truly can’t handle. View it as an opportunity for growth and healing, rather than blaming others for being triggered by the event and the feelings you have around it.
I appreciate that this inquiry is not necessarily easy to do as it requires full responsibility of ourselves, our thoughts and our actions. It also takes a certain amount of diligence and dedication to really unlock yourself from the past and the ways that aren’t serving you or your evolution.
Pain is a part of life while suffering is optional!
Thank you for reading! The latest from Julie Down Retreats:
Quieting the critical voice
Gaining Soul Mastery: Pain vs. Suffering
Meditation for Beginners
Breaking Bad Habits
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Sep 28, 2015
Donut Holes -something to think about
One tasty morsel can take the edge off a sugar binge. So it is also with facing our financial concerns. I don’t know anyone who has not, at least once, taken a hasty look at an envelope we knew housed financial impact and shoved it to the bottom of our purse for later. Some of us do it more often than others, and we do it in a myriad of ways.
When we ignore these seemingly small and elusive financial matters, they can morph into larger financial concerns over time. These can be simple things, like an overdue bill or payment plan on a medical expense that indicate the need for budgeting for example.
There’s that word, “budget”. Budget is a word that has negative connotation in a spend-world economy. No one wants to buy the budget toilet paper, but sometimes that is all there is… when I use the word budget in this context, we can only assume it is going to be “bad”, low quality, substandard product and experience.
“I’m going to put you on a budget!” sounds more like a threat than a favor.
No one wants to “go on a budget!” There is no more joy in doing that than going on a diet. In fact, it might make you feel a little rebellious –at least it does me! Take a donut hole for example. Donut holes can satisfy the craving but not take us totally off-track. You get all the satisfaction without all the calories, expense or guilt. You can grow your long-term financial health in the same way, one bite at a time starting with a budget.
Having a budget somehow feels a little better than going on a budget. Why? Maybe it’s like having a healthy, sustaining diet vs. going on a diet. Subtle but important differences in how we see, perceive and receive information can have powerful impact on our behaviors.
LEATHER BAG OR POUCH
So let’s look at the origin of the word budget. In the early 15th century, the word budget evolved from "leather pouch," or a diminutive of Old French as in bouge "leather bag, wallet, pouch." and from the Latin word bulga also "leather bag."
I don’t know about you, but I appreciate a nice leather bag, or purse if you will, as much as I appreciate a leather notebook; both keepers of information and personal items. If I can think of my budget as my ‘house-purse’ I can approach it more easily and with more respect. So our budget is simply a ‘keeper’ of our financial information, with pockets to help us organize it for easy access. Before the dawn of technology and budgeting software, many budgeting plans consisted of envelopes, each labeled with the area of expense and funded with the amount allocated in the budget. This is the old-fashioned way, but it’s a great way to start if you are not ready to use technology and credit card discipline.
Here is a sample list for the “pockets in the purse.” Modify to make it your own and start keeping track of where your pennies are going.
2. Food (all consumables)
5. Transportation (all means)
6. Medical (uncovered expenses)
7. Insurance (all types)
8. Household items
9. Personal (catch all)
10. Savings (rainy days)
11. Retirement (long term)
12. Education (invest in yourself or others)
13. Gifts (tithing puts money in perspective)
14. Fun (Donut holes)
I also found Purse Organization 101, which might help you get started if you want to take this exercise literally. There is a lot of budgeting software out there, but right now it’s more about how we think about our spending than eating the entire donut and going on a budgeting binge.
Before your financial matters morph into concerns, why not address them systematically? One way to do this is by re-ordering your list into the fixed (mandatory) expenses, and making your long and short-term savings part of that category.
PAY YOURSELF FIRST
This is an old adage, but it is the way to get rich slowly and consistently over time. When you contribute to your company 401k, the money goes right in without ever hitting your personal bank account. You never see it, so you adapt to the amount of money you do receive. You use the remainder to create your household budget. And here is where the pinch comes for some people, and where things get put off for later, or even next year. Once you have allocated for your retirement, and likely your healthcare, there is still long-term care to be considered, cash savings, future college costs, life insurance and potential income gaps over time. This requires looking a bit further into the future.
Here’s what it could look like:
This is just an example, of what saving and compounding can do over time. I hope you can see what I see, which is a significant supplement to Social Security and other savings when you decide to retire.
TIPS AND CLUES: REALITY-CHECK
Are you using the gourmet grocery store as your pantry? I have friends and clients who have found they are doing just that. It’s not hard to do considering all the great pre-made food out there, but it is a pocketbook killer! There is a reason why Whole Foods was dubbed “Whole Paycheck.” Ask yourself if your grocery bill makes sense, or if you find it to represent an inordinate percent of your income. You can apply this to any of the categories or pockets you have allocated.
Also, avoid impulse items or credit cards that make it too easy to spend money. Amazon Prime is my vice, but those pennies add up in the same way the books stack up on my bedside table. Yet the books I buy are not adding compound interest for my long-term benefit. Hello library or local book swap group! Sharing is caring and more fun. Not only do we grow socially we can grow financially by saving and being more efficient together.
HOW DO WE GET STARTED?
Then we put one foot in front of the other, in the direction we wish to go.
Sep 19, 2015